How To Be Successful

This is the first in a series of 4 posts on how to be successful.

Did you know that the MAIN difference between those who are successful and those who don’t boils down to HOW THEY THINK?

It’s VERY difficult to be successful if you have negative thoughts. It’s a FACT that you are more likely to be successful if you have positive thoughts.

Most people have a natural tendency to worry about failing. This means they are focussing on failing, rather than focussing on how to be successful. So as soon as something goes wrong, they think: “I knew it wouldn’t work for me” and give up.

To overcome this, SUCCESSFUL people VISUALIZE the result that they want to achieve as if it has ALREADY happened. This means that they are focussing on succeeding. So when something goes wrong, they don’t give up. They just try again.

Visualizing success is a very powerful tool that many successful people in all walks of life use to great affect and you can use it too. Here’s how to be successful …

First decide what your life will be like WHEN you achieve success. For instance, if wealth is your aim, what income will you have when you are successful? What house will you live in? What car will you drive? What vacations will you take? How much leisure time will you have? What will you do in your leisure time? What charities will you support? Write everything down to describe YOUR dream lifestyle.

It is very important that you ONLY write down what’s important to YOU – what really EXCITES and MOTIVATES you. If you don’t care what car you drive – don’t mention it. After all, wealth might not be your aim. You may just want to be able to work from home so that you can care for your children or an elderly or infirm relative and earn enough to pay the bills. It is YOUR dream lifestyle that you are describing.

Now decide on a realistic time scale to achieve each part of your dream lifestyle. Without a time scale, there will be no sense of urgency. Putting a time scale on your DREAMS turns them in to GOALS. Then re-write your dream life as goals, stating the date that you will achieve each goal, in the PRESENT TENSE, as if you have ALREADY achieved it. Here’s an example for someone who wants to achieve a high standard of living and quality of life:

1. It is 31 December 2012. I have paid off my $10,000 credit card debt and am earning $5,000 a month from my website and have just handed in my notice at work.

2. It is 31 December 2013 and I have repaid my $100,000 mortgage.

3. It is 31 December 2014 and I have an annual income of at least $100,000. I work just 3 hours a day Monday to Friday. I live in (describe your house) and each year I go skiing and spend the summer in …

Remind yourself of these goals EVERY DAY by reading them to yourself, preferably out loud. After reading each one, close your eyes and PICTURE yourself actually achieving that goal. Concentrate on how that success makes you FEEL. SEE yourself living your ideal life. This is what will keep you focused and make sure that you don’t give up.

Everyone is motivated by pleasure or pain. So once you start using this how to be successful technique, each time you hit a hurdle you will deal with it because you will realize that the pain of having to cross that barrier is less than the pain that not achieving your goals will bring, or is less than the pleasure that you will get when you succeed.

I don’t know of ANY successful people who don’t have well-defined goals that they are committed to achieving, as described above. You can ignore the above if you want to, but if EVERY person who knows how to be successful does it, you are LESS likely to succeed if you DON’T do it!

In my next post I’ll continue this thread on how to get success in life

To your success and happiness

Martyn Boaden



  • Mandy Allen

    Reply Reply 13 May, 2009

    Hi Martyn, very interesting post. In life coaching I use this technique all the time – write down what you will have and by what date. Very powerful stuff.

    Enjoy the journey.


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